Some thoughts on being popular

Popularity is an interesting topic. We generally want people to like us & think we’re cool. We like to fit in & feel comfortable around the people with whom we interact – I think this is all pretty natural. Where we get into trouble with the popularity pursuit is when the popularity w people undercuts our popularity w God. It’s nice when our people & God popularity complement each other, but when when we have to make a choice between being popular w people or being popular w God, make the decision now to chose God.
In the long run, choosing God will always sort out with better results than trying to be popular w people 🙂

Christmas in April ,)

We all have lots of things that we want:  more time, job promotion, coffee, happy marriage, safe and healthy kids, security, achievements, healthy relationships, etc.  But with all of these things and lots more, there’s a very IMPORTANT essential ingredient (except for the coffee one, sort of) and that is wisdom.

Wisdom has tremendous value in every area of our lives and when we neglect to pursue wisdom we can often fall short on our goals and the many good things that God has for us.  So remember that James says that we should ask God for wisdom and have faith that He will give it to us.  So let’s be certain to ask God for wisdom on our jobs, in our marriages, with our finances, in our relationships, etc and then watch & listen carefully for His diverse, amazing and relevant wisdom to spring up in our lives 🙂

when I make mistakes

 My husband was recently upset with me for not communicating with him about something that is extremely important.  He called me and I quickly knew that he was displeased with me about something.  Thankfully, when my husband gets upset about something, he usually does a good job about maintaining constructive communication to resolve the issue rather than ranting and raving or taking cheap shots on peripheral topics.  When he explained the problem, I was clearly at fault.

There was another issue this week where I had been responsible to take some notes and had made some mistakes in my note taking.  My gracious friends helped point out some of these mistakes and they were very kind and gentle with their help.

In both of these situations, I totally owned up to my shortcomings.  I didn’t deflect my mistake, blame someone else or have an emotional reaction.  In both situations, I explained that there was no one to blame but me, that I had definitely messed up and I apologized.  I made an internal decision to try to do better in the future for these areas.  I didn’t ingest any bitterness, animosity, resentment or other negative emotional baggage.  When we get corrected, let’s own our mistake, get better and appreciate the feedback 🙂

what is nightcare?

You may have heard me mention this term, “nightcare” and perhaps you’re curious to know what this is and why is it important.  Because of my work with Saving Moses I came across a need for infants and toddlers that completely blew me away.  I’ve discovered that it is very common for prostitutes and sex workers to bring their infants and toddlers to work with them or leave them abandoned at home because they have no other options available to them.  I’ve even seen a toddler chained to his mom’s bed & heard that these toddlers and infants are even drugged or sedated during the time that mom is working so they won’t interrupt the income that their mom is earning.  When I heard of this, I was totally overwhelmed and began to think of possible ways that Saving Moses could help, specifically with these infants & toddlers because they are the sole focus for the mission and vision of Saving Moses.  I felt like God dropped a plan into my heart for the idea of “nightcare” – a safe place with nurture, love and support for infants and toddlers of sex workers to stay while their mom works (kind of like the US equivalent of “daycare”, but just at night).

So with this in mind, over the last year, we’ve been working diligently to implement “nightcare” and I’m elated to announce that we will be opening our first nightcare shelter next week!  To get a brief perspective on this need, please check out this video:  nightcare

hurtful words

At various times in our lives, we are all the targets & recipient of hurtful words.  In elementary school, kids can often say things without thinking of how their words can be received.  Then in Jr & Sr high school, it seems like we get more sophisticated with our ability to use piercing & hurtful words.  By the time we’re adults, many of us have become very proficient at integrating sarcasm with our cleverly cloaked words so that we can slice & filet someone with very crafted and deadly words.

So what do we do with hurtful words?  Here are a couple of helpful thoughts:  

  1. forgive – whether the words were intentionally hurtful or not, forgiving must be your first & continual action
  2. dial down the emotions & see what could be truthful with the hurtful words
  3. make a constructive decision to get better & not bitter – let the hurtful words give you motivation to make some healthy changes rather than letting them fester in your emotional memory being nursed & rehearsed
  4. repay mean words with a smile rather than trying to craft a come back or pay back
  5. take the hurt to Jesus & let Him bring His healing into that pain

Pain isn’t always the main issue.  But what you do with pain will determine it’s results 🙂

happy Resurrection!

 Easter is a GREAT day & I love it for lots of reasons:

  • it reminds me that Spring is imminent
  • it always makes me appreciate what it means to have a fresh beginning
  • it’s a day that infuses HOPE into any dark spots in my life
  • it reminds me that literally NOTHING is impossible
  • it is the ULTIMATE victory – rolling into one giant success March Madness, World Cup Soccer, the Superbowl, World Cup Rugby, the World Series and even more, making me aware that my team wins for time unstoppable
  • it is a tangible expression of the power of genuine love
  • personal resurrection – no situation in my life is exempt from the resurrection power of God

These are a few reasons why I love Easter!  In what ways is Easter meaningful to you???

be picky ,)

I like to have lots of different kinds of friends.  I have friends with whom I talk sports, some that we talk about good books that we’re reading, others that we talk about spiritual issues, some that we discuss our kids and what’s happening in their lives, etc.  It seems to me that we each friend, there are some distinct conversational “sweet spots” and I’ve learned that there are various topics that are limited to certain friends.  For example, I don’t talk about sports with my friend who is my book buddy and I don’t talk about fashion with my “spiritual issues” friend.  Everyone definitely has their unique strengths and I love this!!

There is, however, one person with whom I I love talking about almost everything & that’s God.  But I think it’s unfortunate that even with God I find myself occasionly trying to limit the conversation because I don’t like the topic.  But  here’s the truth:  God is the only truly “safe” person with whom you can talk about literally anything and He will ALWAYS have constructive things to say to you, regardless of the topic.  Don’t limit your conversations with God 🙂