thinking about my dad

When a person whom we love dies, its kind of a surreal journey & that has certainly been true for me with my dad’s death almost 2 months ago.  I’m writing, on occasion, about my thoughts and feelings about his death not to be morbid or to seek for sympathy or attention.  Instead, my intent is to help others who may be going through some grief or loss. With that being said, the first few weeks after my dad died were a bit of a whirlwind – lots of activities, people expressing concern, kindness and an overall sense of busy-ness.  The last month, however, has seemed to settle down in relation to activities related to my dad’s passing.  For me, this has been a more difficult time than when he first died.  I find myself frequently remembering cool things about my dad:

  • when I was 5 years old, he would let me ride on his shoulders when we would go to Israel so that I could see and hear what the tour guides were talking about – helping me experience the Bible in a first hand way
  • he would make his coffee uber strong & playfully threaten to splatter weak coffee all over the wall – a sentiment with which I find myself in more & more agreement ,)
  • stopping for ice cream at Baskin Robbins 31 flavors on the way home from church on Sunday nights & he always ordered (and shared with me) jamocha almond fudge 🙂
  • when I was in junior high, he would come to my basketball games, even though he had absolutely no athletic inclination.  Now more than ever, I totally appreciate what this means – watching jr high girls’ basketball can be a genuine labor of love ,)

So if you’re on a journey that includes grief or loss, I pray that you would continue to celebrate the good memories and characteristics of whoever has passed on and I pray that we can both turn to Jesus to carry our griefs and sorrows.  After all that’s said and done, Jesus loves us and is walking along this journey with us.

10 thoughts on “thinking about my dad

  1. Great Stuff, Sarah! We feel the loss of your Dad, too, and have wonderful memories that we will carry with us INTO Eternity. We lost a sister just before Thanksgiving, bringing back memories of my Mother’s passing on Thanksgiving Eve many years ago. As the song goes, “Knowing what we know about Heaven,” we are comforted. Love ya!

  2. Hello Sarah,

    I thank you for sharing your loss. I have lost both of my parents, my dear mother over 40 years ago. Your perspective does change after such a long time. My father has been gone about 26 years, a very long time, also. You do go on, you have to go on, but to do things without your parents somewhere in the background is a unique and sad experience, at first. Can I say it made me stronger? I don’t know, we become who we become, if that makes sense. I might have become just exactly as I am if they were still living.

    Patricia G

  3. Sarah –
    Jesus and Pastor Wally are walking with you through every step of your journey. When I lost my Dad 10 years ago it was hard, but I carry him in my heart and I cherish the memories of him always. You will learn to go on, but you will never forget. Remember we are both lucky enough to still have our wonderful Moms and wonderful memories of our Dads. That’s a gift to cherish everyday. Blessings to you and the family.


  4. Sarah, your dad was one of the most godly men I’ve ever known. He truly had the “Father’s heart” for the people he shepherded. I asked God for two characteristics in the many I married: 1) that he would love God’s people like Pastor Wally did, and, 2) that he would support me in ministry like Pastor Wally supported Marilyn. God answered that prayer! Having lost my mother last May, my heart goes out to you. I am praying for the Hickey/Bowling/ORCC/Happy Church family. God’s richest blessings,

    sylvia (dawson) williams

  5. Good day! Would you mind if I share your blog with my twitter group?
    There’s a lot of folks that I think would really appreciate your content.

    Please let me know. Many thanks

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