a few memories of my dad

Over the last month or so, I’ve thought of my dad on several occassions.  Maybe it’s because I’ve been traveling alot & I started a lifetime of travel when I was 5 with my mom & dad.  For whatever reason I’ve been thinking of my dad, here are a few quickie lessons I learned from him:

  • don’t ask questions to which you don’t really want to know the answers
  • always celebrate birthdays no matter how old you are because the alternative solution isn’t as appealing
  • don’t put mugs or glasses on antique wood furniture without a coaster – it can leave a permanent ring
  • smile and be warm with people just because
  • the jamocha shake a Arby’s is a nice complement to their roast beef sandwich and potatoe cakes with LOTS of Arby’s sauce ,)
  • even though nursing homes can smell bad, the people inside can be really cool & loving
  • when you make a hospital visit, pray for the person you’re visiting, even if there’s another person in the room (don’t be embarassed)
  • be patient when your dad is talking, even if he talks alot 🙂
  • I still don’t like garage nor estate sales

Happy Dad thoughts today 🙂

wisdom from my husband

 My husband & I are somewhat different.  While we agree upon our goals & values, we don’t always see things in the same way, nor do we always take the same path to our goals.  Early in our marriage, when he was still an engineer, we were talking about my efforts to hang wallpaper (which were “sketchy”).  He was unhappy about how my wallpaper project had turned out because the pattern was slanted rather than perpendicular as it should have been.  He began to ask my about the process I went through to hang the wallpaper & what I had done to properly prepare for a successful project.  He gave me this quote, “Proper prior planning prevents poor performance.”  I didn’t really care for the the cliche approach & it took me awhile to think through what he was trying to say – even though I didn’t like to admit it, I knew that he was right.  This lesson is still being worked through my life even after almost 20 years of marriage.

What is even more breathtaking to me is when I consider that God is the Master Designer & Planner.  God is working in our lives to prepare & refine us, growing & challenging us not only for today’s necessities but also for tomorrow’s successes 🙂

mentorship or mento-ship?

I’m really thankful for the many mentors I’ve had in my life – from my high school basketball coach to my mom & many others 🙂

I’ve never really set out on a mission to find mentors, but when I think about it, God has placed people in my life at very strategic times to mentor me & I’m super thankful.  It also seems to me that God gives me mentors for different areas in my life:  for my theological development, cooking, social skills, management skills, etc.  Furthermore, many of these mentors have invested in me through a variety of mediums:  phone conversations, coffee chats, books, CDs, podcasts, etc.  I always want to be open to God growing & challenging me – helping me to live out His purpose & destiny.

So with that being said, here’s a fun video on some creative uses for Mentos & Diet Coke   ,)

how do you think about yourself?

When I was growing up, my parents say that I was generally a pretty easy kid to correct.  I was super sensitive & eager to please my parents, so they often didn’t have to get emotionally ramped up for me to be obedient.  They didn’t need to yell at me or threaten or take extreme measures because I was generally very compliant.  While this was great for my parents, it has been difficult on me from time to time, as I can be SUPER hard on myself.  When I make mistakes or poor decisions, its easy for me to grind myself into the ground & I have to really watch my thinking to prevent a depressing meltdown.

So here’s something God has encouraged me with in the last few days.  In Prov 30:10, it tells us not to slander the servant of another master.  Because I’ve given my life to God, I am His servant and as such, He commands me not to slander His servant – not just others, but also myself.  Does this mean that I ignore my shortcomings & areas that need growth?  Of course not.  But what I think God intends by this verse is that we keep our eyes on our Master, letting Him correct & grow us: sensitive to Him but not slanderous of ourselves 🙂