This past week, I had the great honor of getting to hang out with my friends & make new friends in Cambodia.  What’s strange today is that I’m fully comfortable in Cambodia eating hot noodle soup on a hot day in Cambodia, making great friends, sharing deep struggles and desires, as well as navigating traffic that by US standards would be nothing short of deadly.  I’m thinking of this all now in contrast as I sit in a starbucks in my US world.  It seems like I can live in diverse worlds but I think that in order to be effective in any world, I must live in the infinite context of genuine love.  Truly, it seems like the most effective way to live in any world is through living in genuine love 🙂


  When I was growing up, I used to complain to my parents about not having any friends – it was partly true, because I wasn’t a very friendly person.  Nevertheless, my parents would always encourage me that I had lots of friends & they were always very affirming on this topic.  Here are some other pearls of wisdom they taught  me in relation to friendships:

  • diversity is good – its good to have lots of different kinds of friends:  smart, funny, healthy, beautiful, chubby, witty, deep, seasonal, insightful, superficial, . . . . .   Diversity is the spice of life!
  • in order to have friends, we must be friendly:  smile, be forgiving, generous, seeking to understand
  • be more concerned about being interested rather than interesting:  listening can be a timeless gift
  • a friendship isn’t merely about what you can get out of the relationship, but also what you can give
  • don’t be disappointed because someone is unable to give something you want in a friendship – maybe they don’t have that skill set or ability, just like you also have some shortcomings
  • give the benefit of the doubt:  don’t assign malicious intent
  • no one person can be your everything in life – this expectation is unhealthy & ultimately idolatrous
  • be the friend you would like to have 🙂
  • forgive, forgive, forgive & be prepared to continue forgiving