This weekend in America, we celebrate Father’s Day. It’s a day when we honor our fathers & express our appreciation for their sacrifices & input in our lives. Not everyone, however, grew up with warm fuzzies for their dads & there are many people who don’t like their dads & many who don’t even know who their dads are or were. So sometimes, we’re conflicted with the premise of honoring our dads & acknowleding the reality of who they are or are not. Holidays like Fathers Day, Mothers Day, Christmas, Thanksgiving, etc when we’re around our family, can be a little tricky. So perhaps these ideas can be helpful:
- honoring our parents is important based on the Ten Commandments; even if you have parents who are dishonorable, choosing to honor them is the high road & ultimately a more healthy decision than dishonor (an internal decision versus an external achievement)
- all humans are flawed, full stop
- remember that ultimately God is your Heavenly Father & that you’re fearfully & wonderfully made in the image of your Heavenly Father
- Help: holidays that have tricky family navigation challenges for us will often cause us to pray and ask God for help – which is always good; doing life without God’s Help isn’t good 🙂
happy Father’s Day!
I had the honor to speak in our church for Father’s Day & although it was difficult (my 1st Father’s Day without my dad), I’m thinking that God always has good stuff in mind for us, even in challenging situations. Yesterday, I talked about how Abraham was a man of faith & miracles – a father to us in our faith. I also threw in a few stories about my dad with his faith & life.
Here’s a fun story: one time my family took a Christmas vacation to Europe, using a book called, “Europe on $10 a Day”, endeavoring to do the tour thing on a tight budget. During that vacation, we visited Italy & I quickly learned that Italy is a bastion to all things beautiful, high style and fashion. This became uber obvious through my dad who had a unique sense of fashion that could be considered “counter-culture”. He had this bright yellow jumpsuit that he wore with white tube socks and black shoes as he walked through the streets of Florence, Rome and Venice. The best part of these strolls was to watch the Italians get whiplash in their necks as their heads spun to fully take in my dad’s fashion bravado. Even though my dad wasn’t in step with Italian fashion, he sported his yellow jumpsuit with dignity & poise, showing me that being a strong individual isn’t only important in fashion, but moreso in faith. So be encouraged to be strong in your faith and weak in your doubts 🙂
With Father’s Day coming up this weekend, maybe you have some special plans or ideas about how to honor you dad or the person who has filled that role in your life. Currently, my husband is on a diet so the cooking options are extremely narrow & I’ll of course do something nice for my dad. Nevertheless, let me take a quick moment to encourage you to celebrate your dad’s strengths & not sulk in his weaknesses. As I think about my parents, the longer I’m a parent the more grateful I am for them. Yes, my parents are human and flawed – they’ll be the first to admit that they didn’t do it all right when they raised my brother & me. Nevertheless, they did their level best with everything they had & I’m genuinely grateful for how God has used them in all of the different stages in my life. As we celebrate our dads this weekend, let’s be certain to celebrate our Heavenly Father who is perfect, infinite and Genuine Love 🙂
Happy Fathers Day!
This is a day when we remember our Dads & celebrate their contributions to our lives. While there are probably many great things that our dads did for us, there might also be some of their shortcomings that could sting us, particularly on this day. Indeed, neither our mother or father have been perfect & their deficiencies can have a negative effects on us.
However, perhaps it is exactly these deficiencies that motivate us to reach & search beyond human frailties. Maybe our search for perfect love is nothing less than our Heavenly Father inviting us into a deeper relationship w Him. In Romans 8:16 it says, “the Holy Spirit bears witness with our spirit that we are the children of God”. From this truth, we can accept that the only perfect parent is found in God & as the perfect parent, He loves us with perfect love. From this truth, we can all celebrate Fathers Day w genuine gratitude 🙂